Just last week I met a girl, an intelligent pretty girl, who had just moved from Bangalore to Mumbai. Her house looked great, she looked great, had a dog & a cute fluffy Persian cat but was unhappy at a deeper level. She said she was looking for a job in Mumbai but will start doing that full throttle once her driver comes back from his wedding leave, which still had 3 more weeks to go.
And I instantly asked her why did she want to wait for him to come back. Why could she not start in the NOW ?
And that got me thinking that we are all so accustomed to procrastination that often we make the happening of one event contingent on another event. SO for example, this pretty girl was waiting for her servant to come back to start the job search – two fairly unrelated events. And similarly we have umpteen such things, we continue to postpone because we are waiting for what we believe to be “The prefect moment”. We believe that once the kids school re-opens– I will start my morning walks, or we believe that once the entire house is spring cleaned only then will I get the new curtains, or we withhold buying that rocking chair because we are waiting for to shift into an apartment with a balcony or we believe that we will start painting once there is a spare room to keep the painting equipment and so on.
We are constantly in search of that perfect moment – which we believe is a perfect moment – but you know what – there is never a perfect time. “Right now” is the perfect time.
If we keep waiting for the perfect time, frankly we may never end up starting that thing we have been wanting to. Simply because when that thing- that we have been waiting for, does happen – there is something else that creeps in and becomes our priority or dependency. So it could be that when the males servant does come back from his wedding vacation – his wife cant cope with the city & he has to go elsewhere looking for a job or it could be that we never find a house with a balcony big enough for a rocking chair.
SO the key is not to procrastinate. Not to make two independent events dependent on each other and make that dependency as a reason for delay in checking off our bucket list. Also life is uncertain so we need to take action in the here & now. And take that action believing that even if not perfect, this is a Near perfect moment & then just get on with it.
At the end of the day, it is a choice we make – either to act now or decide to wait for something else to first happen. And guess what, in the meantime – precious time would be lost & life would have passed you by.
So remember – it is all in the NOW. And awareness of this fact is the greatest agent for Change !


Author: Pallavi Sidhra

I am a fiercely optimistic and a forward looking person. I enjoy travelling, learning, evolving and creating value right where I am. There is so much inspiration all around us, if one has the eye for it. I believe that one does not need to go searching for the truth but just ceasing to cherish our own opinions sets us rolling. After all we have only this life so why not make the journey a happy and inspirational one for as long as it lasts !

2 thoughts on “#takingactionseries”

  1. I like your optimism Pallavi 😊😊😊😊if only we live in the present and learn to appreciate what we have today !!! Aspirations are good !! It makes us strive for a better tomorrow but in the bargain we loose today 😟😟we stop enjoying the journey to our destinations !! Fear of judgment never lets us breathe in peace ! Never lets us live to the fullest 💕💕

  2. So true… Living in the ‘here and now’… Something we need to be reminded of often!

    Looking forward to more in your series on decision fatigue 🙇🏻

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